Guilt. It can wreck a soul. It can confuse, and halt life. Guilt throws a wrench in the sane mind.
I’m talking about the guilt that comes from not having faith. False guilt. The guilt that weighs chaos on your spirit. If you know God and you believe in and follow Jesus, then false guilt should be buried in the mud and mire from which you were saved from.
There is real guilt, of course, that of a guilty conscience from doing something that goes against the Holy Spirit in you…against His guiding and His Word. Genuine guilt feelings are “established attitudes consistent with God’s attitude.”False guilt feelings are “established attitudes not consistent with God’s attitude” (Guilt, Christ in You Ministries). If you are walking in faith daily, and you know the One who died for your sins, then you are not guilty. If you are choosing to go against God’s Word in something, then your conscience will activate genuine guilt. But…
“To feel guilty is not to be guilty.” -Sigmund Freud
Just because you feel guilty over something, doesn’t always make it true.
How does the topic of guilt have anything to do with cleaning? I bet you’ve already answered that in your mind. I bet many of you right now who are reading this feel tremendous guilt over your homemaking abilities…keeping the home clean consistently…feelings of failure over not “getting it together” after all this time.
Friend, might I suggest that you are placing a burden on yourself that God did not intend for you to bear?
You see, your identity, your worth, your “goodness” as a wife and mom and homemakers has nothing to do with your ability to clean. Yet so many women have fallen into the trap of bricks-on-the-back guilt over not being a “good-enough” cleaner, A.K.A. good wife, mother, homemaker. Because our God-given roles have much to do with being a wife and mother and homemaker, we sometimes think that our identity comes from those things, but it does not.
Let me repeat that. Our identity does NOT come from our roles as a wife, mother, homemaker (or even what our husbands think of us).
Our identity is found in Christ alone, whose throne is one of grace and help. When we know Him, we are complete, perfect for eternity (Hebrews 10:14) and do not need to bear the false burden of guilt over our perceived worth. We are enough, right now, because we are in Christ Jesus. God the Father looks on us as His dearly beloved children. We are no longer slaves to sin.
“Whatever is not of faith is sin.” Romans 14:23
I’m asking you to begin to see yourself as dearly beloved, even in the mess of dishes and the opinions of others. You, right now, in Christ are free to walk faithfully as He leads. When you fall, go to Him. When you feel desperate, go to Him. When you want to throw in the towel (or throw it at somebody) go to Him. He is our strength when we are weak, and He is so so good to help and offer the grace we are hopeless without.
One step at a time, my friend, one step at a time. Do what you can, persevere, and keep your eyes on the lover of your soul.
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